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Shauna WhiskeyChick Castorena's avatar

You sound like the train of thought that runs through my head at 3am when I don't grab my phone to jot it down because I don't want the screen glare to wake my Mister. 45 and still recovering from my last 3 or 4 fuck-ups.

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AJ Tibando's avatar

It’s the only train that’s always on time 😭 so glad to hear it resonated with you!

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Luna Black's avatar

As someone who just turned 30 on one hand it kind of sucks that this question never stops being asked. But on other hand it’s a nice reminder that even if you do you will always figure it out.

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AJ Tibando's avatar

The question never changes, but the answer does. It goes from "oh no!" to "I got this" to "fuck it, yolo."

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Gemma James's avatar

Loved this 🫶

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AJ Tibando's avatar

So glad to hear that!

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Fairtheewell's avatar

Loved this! It hit home

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AJ Tibando's avatar

We've all asked that question too many times, right?

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Mo__'s avatar

Love how you continued to make your way, AJ!

Have you discovered Marie Forleo yet?

Marie Forleo

(a late Gen Xer), wrote the book ”Everything is Figureoutable “.

I see this ability which you so wonderfully shared about as an Xer superpower!

I share some of my thoughts on this in my post, “Who’s on first? … What!?”

Love reading your articles! TY

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AJ Tibando's avatar

Thanks for the recommendation - I love that book title :) And it's true!

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

Thank you! ~ from an 80s baby who lives in a 700sq ft apt

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AJ Tibando's avatar

Thanks! 💕 so glad to have found you.

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Sara Khayat's avatar

Beautiful and inspiring 💫 thank you

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AJ Tibando's avatar

My comment got cut off, but I was saying our exchange inspired me to write this now.

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Sara Khayat's avatar

Wow that’s awesome! I love the “did I fuck everything up?” Question as almost a time marker to move us through time and how the question never changes, just keeps popping up like something living in the pit of us.

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Brittany Retherford's avatar

Over here just continuing to fuck things up at 46. Loving every minute of it. Thanks for your lovely essay.

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